WHY MEDIATION WORKS > WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY > DANNY KRAMER
Hi
I'm Danny Kramer.
I hope what I have to say will cause you to stop and think about mediation as a way to handle your divorce. I wish that I would have had this option 20 years ago when I went through my first divorce. Every fear that you are currently having was a reality for me in my first divorce. I suffered more than any person should have to. It affected my relationship with my children.
It was devastating to me financially. I thought I would never bounce back. The only people who won were the attorneys. This was my experience of using the courts to determine the outcome of my divorce. I had no control and I felt like the best interests of the children were being constantly pushed aside. It was an experience that nobody should have to go through.
I later remarried and recently have been in a situation where divorce was again confronting me. I did not have the energy or the money or the time to go through another divorce like my first one. I was scared, frustrated, and unsure about everything. Our son was my biggest concern and I felt that I was doomed to the same fate of my last divorce. I had heard about mediation and did not know much about it so I called the Divorce Mediation Institute of Utah. After a half hour of meeting 2 of the mediators David Musselman and Shirley Pappin both my wife and myself knew that mediation was the way we were going to handle this divorce.
We liked the idea that we could customize the agreement to our needs and the needs of our son. We liked the idea of a male and female mediator to ensure that our perspectives would be heard. We liked the idea that our divorce would be done in weeks not months and at a fraction of the cost.
Now don't get me wrong. We had our fair share of conflict in the mediation but the mediators helped us work through that and keep us focused on what was important which was our son. I was amazed at the creativity that the mediators had when working through our debts and assets and alimony. At the end we had an agreement that was fair and we both liked it.
Whether you are agreeable and just need somebody to guide you through the maze of divorce or if you are in the middle of a high conflict battle, I would strongly encourage you to at least talk to some mediators and find out if mediation might be a good fit for you. It will be one of the best choices you will ever make.
Danny Kramer
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